Have you ever experienced getting your heart crushed? Well, let me tell you, it is not a good feeling. Now that we are approaching the holiday season, bitter moments of a heartbreak are remembered more than ever. Heartbreaks and the pain accompanied with it happen because you’ve loved, and being in love is one of the best emotions you can experience in the world. As we go through the course of our lives, we as human beings can experience different kinds of heartbreaks. May it be breaking up with your significant other, drifting apart from your closest friends, or even losing a loved one. It is important to remind yourself that what you are feeling is valid -- may it be humiliation, loneliness, disappointment or even relief (Cassata, 2021). As there are numerous causes of heartbreak, there are also numerous solutions for mending a broken heart. This article will tackle some ways that can help mend a broken heart. But it is important to note that the first step to healing is knowing your worth and that you are capable of being loved and giving love.
In order to heal, it’s important that you learn to let go of the cause of your heartbreak. The aftermath may burden you with negative thoughts and feelings. If so, you can release those emotions by talking to someone you trust, writing them down in a journal, or expressing them through art. Additionally, even if it may be hard, acknowledging your thoughts about your previous relationship may help. If you suppress these thoughts and emotions, they will linger within you for as long as they remain there. Reflect on the past, both the good and bad experiences, without letting your feelings consume you and resolve your thoughts on what happened in order for you to give yourself closure. Remember that it’s okay to take your time to grieve and deal with these emotions. With time, you’ll be able to let go and move on.
Learning to Love Yourself
“Love yourself”, a statement that is easier said than done. You might even find this statement loaded because it implies that maybe you love others more than yourself. But what is self-love? It’s definitely not about feeling good about yourself, but an action. A choice that entails forgiving yourself for your mistakes, being compassionate about your shortcomings, and talking to yourself with care and without losing self-respect (Psychological Health Care, 2019).
Self-love has many forms. In the context of heartbreak, it can look like allowing yourself to feel your emotions. Let it all out. Let it all go. Give yourself time to process and purge all the grief and shattered dreams. Self-love may also look like cutting those people off on social media platforms, changing your number, or moving to a new city so that you can have a restart. Now that you are alone, it is the right time to think about your dreams and aspirations. Ask yourself, “Am I in a happy place right now? If not, where do I want to be?” This may be asked in different life aspects like career, health, family, friends, and overall quality of life.
One of the most important forms of self-love is awareness. Give yourself some time to process the heartbreak and see yourself from your point of view with compassion. With awareness, you will be able to accept yourself as a whole and forgive yourself. Reflecting on what happened will also bring you closure. Reflecting may be difficult, and so it is vital to seek help if needed. Having a mental health care professional on your side will always be a good idea since they will help you cope better and live a happy and fulfilling life.
Trying new things is a great way to practice self-care and may help with moving on. Find new hobbies and interests and revisit old ones that make you happy. Spend time with your friends and maybe invite others into your life. You can even try taking a trip to see new places. Being adventurous can shift your focus on other things and rejuvenate yourself. Explore things on your bucket list that would bring you joy, or maybe create a list of the things you would like to experience. It can be as simple as taking yourself to a yoga class, going to the nearest beach with your family, having brunch with your friends, going to a cafe to read alone, getting your nails done, having a new hairdo, getting skin treatments, and keeping a gratitude journal. You will get to know yourself more when you try new things. It allows you to reconnect with yourself and with others and will gradually bring joy back into your life.
It’s Time to Heal
As much as everyone sees heartbreak as a bad thing; we need to realize that it can also bring about good things for us. Mainly, we grow as individuals; where we learn from the mistakes that made the relationship fall apart; both their mistakes and ours. We can apply what we learned from the experience to do better with our other relationships and future ones. Although bittersweet, heartbreak also allows us to ‘toughen’ up ourselves so when the next heartbreak happens, we’d be more ready to deal with it.
You can’t kill heartbreak. In some way, it will linger as you hold the memories and experiences you had with that person. However, you can still heal from it and move on. Sometimes, all you really need at a certain moment is yourself. The love of your life is you, and your relationship with yourself is your top priority.
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Cassata, C. (2021, August 1). 10 tips for healing a broken heart. PsychCentral. https://psychcentral.com/blog/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart
Psychological Health Care. (2019, November 21). Learn How to Self-Love. https://www.psychologicalhealthcare.com.au/blog/learn-how-to-self-love/